I've put together a relationship principle that is based on an old French proverb. I've added an entire second phrase to the principle, tweaked it through changing a few words, and then brought it over into our English language. I believe this relationship principle is the magnum opus of relating well, and that it is supported by a host of Scriptures, particularly the Proverbs and the words of Christ. The principle takes about ten minutes to memorize, but a lifetime to apply. It goes like this:
You steady another soul through your kindness,
and you sway that same soul through your calm.
I believe every marriage, every business, every non-profit, every family, every organization, and every living organism that strive to build healthy relationships will profit from learning and applying this principle daily. Try it next time you are at an airport counter among a group of angry passengers. Put it into practice in a long line at the restaurant. Think about it the next time someone is shouting at you. Remember it when your spouse is hurt and angry. We don't speak King James language anymore (i.e. "heaping coals of fire"), but the principles of God's word still apply -- particularly when understood in modern language. Put this principle in your relationship tool box and you might find your road in life much smoother and more enjoyable.