One of my friends and fellow leaders at Emmanuel is a bright attorney named Randy. His family and mine spent the last couple of days at their family home on Lake Keystone, where we had a very interesting conversation. Randy shared that one of our special guests at Emmanuel this spring, author and Christian school educator Josh Bullard, had revealed in his training of our youth leaders a cultural phenomenon among teens and even pre-teens in America. "Friends with benefits" is the lingo of our day to identify "friends" who will perform sexual favors with no commitment, no sense of "girlfriend/boyfriend" relationship, etc ... In other words, we are living in a culture where sexual activity among teenagers is not necessarily among "dating" couples who are not married, but simply among "friends" who have no intention of either dating and/or getting married. These kinds of relationships among kids is called "friends with benefits."
I was floored.
I had never even heard of such a thing but immediately turned to my fifteen year old son who had just recently returned from a summer long mission trip to Peru and asked if he had heard of "friends with benefits." He said yes. I then asked the attorney's seventeen year old daughter if she had heard the phrase and she said yes. The attorney then told me that the very next week, during a criminal trial, he heard a witness from the stand use the very phrase "friend with benefits." The conversation confirmed what our guest youth speaker had told our youth leaders this past spring. "Friends with benefits" is a fact of life among this world's youth culture.
My nurse wife, Rachelle, explained to us how rampant sexually transmitted diseases are. S.T.D's such as chlamydia are often silent until sterility is discovered after marriage. Other sexually transmitted diseases are much less silent and far more deadly.
The very concept of "friends with benefits" is a lie fired from hell itself. Were a teen to sneak off to a car, or a school locker room, or another location to spend time with a "friend with benefits," that teen will one day discover that his or her sexual partner should have been called a "friend with consequences."
The gospel of Jesus Christ delivers a sinner from hell to heaven, but thank God and His grace that the gospel of Jesus Christ can also deliver a sinner from believing the lie that friends who perform sexual favors are benefits.
They are friends with consequences of a curse.
In His Grace,