Years ago my dad gave me three principles that he required his church staff to follow. I have found these principles to be invaluable in keeping relationships healthy, both on our staff and in our church. I am convinced that if every one in the Southern Baptist Convention followed the following rules of relationships, 90% of the problems within our Convention would be resolved fairly quickly.
Principle (1). A Positive Spirit
No matter how difficult or dark things seem to be, I will always recognize that God is in control and that He has a purpose for the circumstances I am in, and as a result, I will maintain positive outlook on life.
It is amazing what a deep understanding of God's sovereignty will do for morale on a church staff.
Principle (2). A Servant's Heart
I will work my hardest and do my best to make sure that those around me look good and succeed in life, for I esteem and value others more than I do myself.
This type of selflessness prevents staff members designating "turf" and seeking to protect it.
Principle (3). A Loyal Spirit
I will neither give nor receive a negative word about you unless you are aware of that which is being said or heard by me.
Oh how I wish every Southern Baptist practiced this principle. It sure seems people find it easy to talk ABOUT people but never TO people.
Good food for thought this weekend.
In His Grace,